When we practice metta, it affects how we feel toward ourselves. And how we feel toward ourselves affects how we feel about others.
Imagine the way a flower's sweet scent wafts out into the world.
The flower doesn’t minimize itself depending on who walks by - radiating beauty and splendor for "worthy" people and shutting itself down for the unworthy. Flowers emit their scent for everyone.
This simple visualization is a way to practice softening when we have the impulse to harden. It's a practice to help us not minimize our own love and spaciousness. We’re simply noticing how and when and where we close down in reaction to what’s in front of us. And then, practicing softening on purpose, practicing relaxing with whatever we are feeling.
We do this for ourselves, for our own wellbeing. Just like flowers, we too have an inherent sweet scent. And when we allow it to radiate it's not only good for others, it's good for us. Because when we’re tense and shut down in our body and in our heart, do we not only feel physically uncomfortable, but cannot feel our wholeness. And when you feel more relaxed and at ease, it's not only good for you it's good for everyone you come into contact with! So thank you for practicing.